This morning, after a fabulous breakfast and cup of coffee, after tweeting and checking the worlds activities through social media sites, I entered the master to dress for the gym, only to discover, HALF the bed made. Seriously? Yes indeed. Mr. Clean’s half. (That’s the husband) He actually made HALF the bed. Can you guess which side? Of course you can. He must have just walked by his side on the way to the closet because his side of the bed is next to the closet. Or, no…wait…he feels as though I’m not doing my fair share? Afterall, he DID cook us breakfast, clean all the dishes, and put them away while I was ‘space-facin’ as he calls it. No…I think the reason is so he could send me a message like..’hey, help me out here, would ya? ” …but, just as it is with the JELLYFISH….we think of the negative aspects first. WHY do we do this? Why does our thought process default to the following: “What about me” Why me?” “What’s in it for me”…and further more, the default is..”Why are they against me?” …”What have I done wrong to deserve this?”…”Why are they so stubborn?”…..But, wouldn’t most of us agree there are individuals out there who actually see or hear of a JELLYFISH and think of how unique they are, maybe how elegant they dance in the sea, or how their colors glow, or how they are so amazingly different from all of God’s creatures? Not me, I immediately, when hearing the word, or see one, think about THE STING.
When I brought it to Mr. Clean’s attention, I asked, “So, I see you only made YOUR half of the bed…interesting, do you think I am not doing my fair share around here? Is there something wrong?”….
He simply, and softly replies…” So I make up half the bed as I walked by, you make it everyday mostly, and instead of being grateful that HALF is made, and it helps out, you’re going to complain about it?”
It was then that I realized, my thinkin was pretty stinkin about now. It was then that I realized, Mr. Clean spoils me. He is a Clean phanatic, and if something needs picking up, fixing, mending, repairing, or it’s out of place, or undone, yes sir– ree Bob…Mr. Clean is on it like lightening. It was then I realized something unique, like Jellyfish….I should stop and try to make a strong effort, to see the positive side of things before ALLOWING my perpsective to default to a negative place. In addition though to the PERSPECTIVE lesson in this morning’s festivities, there was another lesson within a lesson. That, by all the more of Mr. Clean’s helpfulness and generosity, the more disabled I became to seeing the positive side of things, the more little bit of entitlement and negative thinking set in. So it is with great courage and willingness to ‘becoming’ a better me, the best me in fact, that I must say, took an act that many people would have allowed to ruin their day with blame, male bashing and negative contemplation, and I turned it into a great lesson for myself. TAKE the time to remember the Jellyfish. Remember, there’s always a lesson, there’s always a positive, there’s always a way to consider the beauty in this life, and the beauty in other’s. Especially, those who love you. I love my Mr. Clean…I hope you consider your spouse to be, (even through challenging situations where you’re defaulting to the negative)….someone that helps you to be your best!!